The Miles Between Who I Was and Who I Am

Have you ever felt like you were moving as fast as you could, but still getting nowhere?

Most people start running because they want to change their bodies. They want to hit a certain weight, lower their blood pressure, or finish a local 5K. But for me, the journey was different. I didn’t start running to find a finish line; I started running because I didn’t know how to stand still.

Running to Escape, Running to Find

In the beginning, every step was an escape. I was running away from the noise in my head, the stress of my daily life, and the version of myself I no longer recognized. I thought that if I could just go fast enough and far enough, I’d eventually leave those problems behind in the dust.

But a funny thing happens when you spend hours alone on the pavement. You realize that you can’t actually outrun yourself. Eventually, the exhaustion strips away the masks you wear. When your lungs are burning and your legs are heavy, there is no room left for pretension.

I wasn’t running away from myself—I was running toward the person I was meant to be.

Why I Wrote This Book

My new book, « Running Away From Myself, » is the story of that realization. It isn’t a manual on gait or a guide to marathon nutrition. It’s a map of the internal landscape I crossed while my feet were hitting the asphalt.

It’s for anyone who has ever:

  • Used exercise as a way to process grief or anxiety.
  • Felt like a « fake » runner because they didn’t look like the people on magazine covers.
  • Discovered that the hardest mountain to climb is the one inside their own mind.

Through every blister, every failed workout, and every breakthrough sunrise, I learned that running isn’t about how fast you go. It’s about the courage to keep showing up when you’re tired of your own excuses.

Join the Journey

If you’ve ever felt lost, or if you’re looking for the motivation to take that first step (even if you’re terrified), I wrote this for you.

You can find my full journey, the lessons I learned on the road, and the peace I found in the stride in my new book.

Order « Running Away From Myself » on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GCZ23RWL

The photon

I’ve walked for many kilometers, the soles of my boots worn thin by the endless path that stretched before me. Each step was a testament to my solitude, a journey through a landscape that seemed to exist outside of time. The world around me was a canvas of muted colors, the sky a pale, washed-out blue, and the earth beneath my feet a tapestry of browns and greens.

At first, the silence was a welcome companion. It was a stark contrast to the cacophony of my previous life, where noise was as constant as the air I breathed. Here, in this vast emptiness, the quiet was profound, almost sacred. It allowed me to hear the subtle sounds of nature—the rustle of leaves, the occasional whisper of the wind, the distant call of a bird that seemed to echo through the void.

But as the kilometers stretched into what felt like an eternity, the silence began to transform. It wasn’t just the absence of sound anymore; it became a presence, an entity in its own right. The quiet grew louder, not in volume but in intensity, filling my mind with its oppressive weight.

In this overwhelming silence, my thoughts began to take on a life of their own. They whispered to me, not with the gentle voice of introspection but with the eerie, echoing resonance of a voice from the abyss. “You are a photon into a supermassive black hole,” they murmured. The words were chilling, not just for their content but for the way they seemed to resonate with the very essence of my being.

The metaphor was apt. A photon, with its infinite journey, its path bent by the gravity of a black hole, spiraling closer and closer to an event horizon from which there is no return. Here I was, in this desolate expanse, feeling the pull of an existential gravity, drawing me into the depths of my own psyche.

The silence, once a balm, now felt like the void of space, cold and indifferent. My steps, once purposeful, now seemed futile, as if I were walking towards an inevitable singularity where all paths converge and all light, all sound, all essence of self would be consumed.

Yet, within this daunting realization, there was a strange peace. The acceptance of my journey, of my solitude, of the whispering truths in my head, brought a clarity. I was not just a traveler in this physical landscape but a voyager through the cosmos of my own mind, where every step was both an escape and a descent into the heart of a black hole, where even light must eventually surrender to darkness.

And so, I walked on, the silence now a companion in my journey towards understanding, towards the acceptance of my own insignificance in the grand tapestry of the universe, and perhaps, towards a new kind of enlightenment.

Discovering the Timeless Charm of Prague

Prague. It’s not just a city—it’s an invitation to step into history, to feel the weight of countless tales woven into its cobblestone streets and ancient walls. As you stand before the towering Prague Castle, you realize it’s not just a piece of architecture but a silent witness, watching over the city’s winding paths and the steady flow of the Vltava River. The bridge spans beneath you, and every step feels like a passage through time, connecting you with all those who have walked here before.

There’s something unique about this place that’s hard to put into words—a quiet pull that gets under your skin, making you feel part of something bigger. The sky stretches above, heavy with clouds that seem to hold the city’s secrets, casting shadows and light across the river. It’s a place that doesn’t shout its significance; it whispers, letting the beauty of the spires and rooftops sink slowly into your soul. Every moment here feels like a blend of the past and present, as if you’re not just visiting but somehow becoming part of the story.

Prague isn’t just a destination; it’s a feeling, a memory waiting to be made, a city that lingers long after you leave. As you take in the view, the sounds, and the essence of Prague, you know you’re standing somewhere timeless.

No soul

The sun was still up there, staring at us. No soul was around, a total silence. By holding our breath, we could hear our hearts beating. That had something special. It lasted a few moments only, but it will last forever in my memories…

The sun was still up there, gazing at us. There was no soul around, just total silence. As we held our breath, we could hear our hearts beating.

That was something special. It lasted only a few moments, but it will last forever in my memories…

Now that I am a hundred years old, remembering this brings me pure joy. I am not fully sure if this is because of the pure beauty of the place… or if it reminds me that once, long ago, I was young and full of life. Ah, nostalgia, my dear, what are you doing to me? Was living then better? What exactly changed? What exactly happened? Is it life that changed? Or is it my perception?

Things that I disliked then are now pleasant to me. Things that I liked then are now meaningless. However, there is one thing that has remained constant throughout all those years: her.

Walking through the flames

There is always something heroic to get up from a difficult situation.

But you can have a thousand people around, and nobody will lend you a hand to help you out. Not at all. It is quite the other way around.

People will look on the other side and pretend they did not notice you lying on the floor and dying.

Remember one thing, though: when you get better (if you get better), those same people will be here to cheer with you and tell you how proud they are that you made it.

Moral of the story: do not wait for them to open a beer. You do not need anyone to have a drink.

The luxury of a glass of water

It was still dark outside. The window was slightly open. A new day was about to come. Every new day was only a pale copy from the yesterday’s template. What new? Nothing much, maybe a new pain. The lower back? The legs? The joints? It does not matter anymore.


A big mug of coffee will put all of this behind. Why am I having everything that I was dreaming of and still, the happiness seems to not be around? Maybe I should change my state of mind? Maybe… but, easy to say, harder to think. Working hard to see your bank account growing bigger and bigger and, in exchange, what do I get? White hair, dark circles. I live the dream of the poor. But its smile seems realer than the one on my face. Maybe this is the real price of things: time, health, and sleep.

When VLOOKUP looks to the left

Context

VLOOKUP is an Excel formula which looks up to the right to find a value.

For instance, if you want to know which customer is #282655, VLOOKUP can help you for this: the formula will return “Bastra”.

But, what if you want to find the customer number of Castero? In this case, VLOOKUP will not help you. Indeed, as we said before, the formula only looks to the right, but in our example, the Customer numbers are in the left column.

I will show you three methods to solve this problem:

  • Method A – Manual
  • Method B – Nested formula (which works on every Excel’s versions)
  • Method C – New era

Method A – Manual

In this method, we will simply copy data from column A and paste them in column C. The result column (customer number) will be displayed to the right of the column with the desired value (name):

We are now able to perform the VLOOKUP, but the table array will be column B and C:

This method is easy, but not productive at all. Indeed, suppose that you have tons of data. Or that the data in column A are from an external source.

Method B – Nested formula

The advantage of this method is that it is working properly on every Excel’s versions (including the old versions). You can then share your file with everybody, it does not matter which Excel’s versions they have.

This method is using two formulas: INDEX (Uses an index to choose a value from a reference or array) and MATCH (Looks up values in a reference or array).

We will have:

Method C – XLOOKUP

With Microsoft365, the firm from Redmond brought a gift for millions of Excel’s users: the VLOOKUP which looks to the left – XLOOKUP.

The structure of the formula is quite similar to the VLOOKUP, except that we must split the lookup array and the return array.

So, we will have:


You can download the file used as example here: